Comparison, You Thief

Comparison, You Thief

January 30, 2024 0 By Laura

For years, I’ve heard the famous quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” 

Most of us know that comparison does nothing positive for us. We believe it ourselves, and we even preach it to others. We tell our kids and our friends and our colleagues. We remind them not to compare themselves to others and not to look at what others have with envy. 

But if we get really honest with ourselves, we all compare far more often than we’d like. We get trapped in this notion that someone else has it better than us, and we get caught up in feeling like we got dealt the short end of the stick. 

Here’s a secret: Someone does have it better than you. Someone is more successful, more beautiful, and more kind. Someone is a better mom, a better employee, and a better cook. Someone has more money, a bigger house, and a nicer car.

No matter what you do, you can’t compete with that “someone.” 

No matter what, someone is better off than you. But that doesn’t make you less than. It doesn’t make you inferior. It doesn’t make you less important or significant. It doesn’t make you less loved. No matter what “someone” is doing or not doing, you still have value and you are still worthy. 

I’ve been a professional content writer for a decade, and I still feel ill-equipped and unqualified to do what I do. Logically, I know that I know my stuff and I know I’m good at what I do. I know I have the experience, knowledge, and qualifications to help people with their content marketing and be successful. 

Yet I still feel like an imposter.

I still feel like someone else out there is better equipped than me to do this job for my clients. Maybe that’s true and maybe it’s not. But the key–that I constantly have to remind myself of–is that God chose ME to be a content writer and serve my particular clients in their specific businesses. 

He created me to live my life and do the things He’s tasked me with. He didn’t call anyone else to start my business or parent my kids or have my friends. I have a specific calling and assignment from me, and I am the right person for the job.

He’s given me the responsibilities He has for a reason, and that’s because I am capable of handling them and thriving in them (with his help, of course).

He says He will equip the called, so why do I get so worked up over comparisons?

I think part of the reason is because we compare in the opposite way too. We don’t just look at people doing better than us and get down on ourselves, but we also look at people doing worse than us and puff ourselves up over it. We’re grateful that we aren’t dealing with that situation, or struggling with that sin, or making those choices. 

We can be thankful and we can appreciate God’s grace in keeping us from certain things, but to compare ourselves to others in this way is no better than getting down on ourselves from comparing. 

Comparison is the thief of joy. It’s absolutely true.

Comparison sucks the life out of us and strips our joy and confidence away faster than almost anything else. 

We shouldn’t feel better or worse about ourselves because someone else has a different story, a different life situation, and different experiences. I know we do sometimes, but let’s call it what it is. Comparison is a joy sucker and a fun sponge and a confidence buster. It has no place in our world–no place in our hearts or minds. It shouldn’t have a place in our families, friend groups, work environments, or any other relationships. 

Next time we are tempted to compare or catch ourselves caught up in the throws of comparison, let’s stop. Let’s cut off the lie that we’re less than or insignificant, that we’re better than or more important.

Let’s replace the lie with the truth that God made us exactly how we are for a reason and He has great plans for us. Let’s not minimize that. Let’s not minimize the call He has put on each of us, the responsibilities He has given us, and the strengths and weaknesses that He perfectly fashioned for us. 

Let’s also lift each other up instead of tear each other down. Let us be encouragers and friends who love and celebrate one another. Instead of comparing, let’s be each others’ cheerleaders and support systems.